Beyond the veil - need us as much we need them

I have never understand the baptism for the death but we should see the water as a grave. As a baby we was baptized in water to life. In old time they did emergency baptism for babies that they thought should not make it so they at least was recognized here on earth / have once been born here. To baptize is to confirm they have once lived here and they still live and am not in a grave.